Confedence

confidence is one of the best elements we have to succeed in life, whether it's finding love, jobs or whatever it is we want to achieve in life. It's there deep inside you. I remember when I first started harbor college, I had what felt like ZERO confidence. Throughout that first semester I struggled; not because of the work, but because of I wasn't sure of myself. After I finished that first semester with a 3.5 GPA, my confidence was sky high and I was filled with enthusiasm. Even with love, your confidence seems to feel like it's in check when you first meet that special someone-- only because the insecure mechanism kicks in because we are unsure of what the future holds with that better half. When we know we have a future, that confidence skyrockets. But what about losing our confidence? Now this is a very familiar place. Unpleasant, I must say. You lose confidence faster than you gain it-- so much faster. Like you don't know what hit you. I won't get into any details, but there was a time when my confidence hit rock bottom at a very fast paste. I lost something very meaningful and all of the sudden I was all alone. I was down for a long time and I didn't know what to do. Until I realized I can't let myself go, I needed to pick myself up. The funniest things I notice is, I did the hardest thing i need to do to start gaining my confidence back --and that was "face it". Denial gets you nowhere. If you really want heal or gain your confidence back you need to take action, mopping isn't going to get you anywhere. Remind yourself you can't fix the past and find ways to be more positive so you can move up or move on. And if you need find a role model, someone that may have been there and can offer useful insight. Now I also want to remind you that you never lost your confidence, you just hid it... It's up to you how long you want to take to find your confidence.

Self Inspiring

Do you ever listen to people, I mean really listen them? Like when people say inspiring things about you, or how they say you're an inspiration? What do you think? I bet most of you would completely disagree, saying no I'm not inspiring. I know, I do it all the time-- well I used. I mean, how could a man in a wheelchair be inspiring? They see things you don't. They see the things you have accomplished and can not imagine accomplishing such tasks or goals if they were in your situation or mine for that matter. The thing is, people take themselves for granted and are blind by their own achievements. They are not able to look at themselves from the outside in. Not that one can't do that, it's just that people are too busy looking at others. My point is if you started to do that, look at the goals you've achieved and the accomplishments you've made, can you imagine by doing that you could inspire yourself? By inspiring yourself you could build that confidence you thought you never had.

Effort

: I'm sure you guys resort to what is easier or think it will come to you like magic. Let me tell you, I know because I used to wait for things or situations to come to me without any effort. Boy did I set myself up for disappointments for a long time. I believed that way for a long time. It took me a lifetime to change that way of thinking. I still have trouble with effort. If you want something or if you want to change something, you have to make the effort. It's not going to just, zap, and appear out of nowhere. Nobody is going to give it to you. You have to do it. The effort has to come from you.

Courage

Finding courage when you are alone is probably the hardest element to tackle when you are trying to achieve a goal. Positive thinking will help find that courage. Remember, the courage is right there inside you-- never forget that it's within your power to use it. Encouragement helps but it ultimately boils down to the courage in YOU!

Procrasination

the biggest enemy of success is procrastination. The worst element of procrastination is we don't even have an excuse. The second worst element is the excuse. I am guilty as charged because through out my life I've always put things off saying tomorrow, in the back of my mind. Another one of my goals is stop procrastinating because the goals I'm trying to achieve will get harder to reach as time goes by.

Thinking

the enemy of me is my thinking. I think way more then i act. And the result is, it's too late. Some say "it's never too late" but I'm sure we all know that is not always true. One of my goals is, start acting because if I don't I will not be able to accomplish any goals I set. Simple as that! "Simplicity is the key to brilliance "-- Bruce Lee

Relationships-- Part 2

Here is a very nice video of people with Cerebral Palsy talking about different aspects of Relationships. I really like this video and I think you will too.